We use one of the tools to achieve this. It is using "Important To" to get what is "Important For" her. It is a win-win and we are all happier as a result.
A video explanation featuring Michael Smull is available at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VDqERIxM4HM.
For now I'll share this video I created about our most recent endeavor which was a great success!
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